Thursday, December 29, 2011
It is reported that strong relationships can lower the risk of death by up to 50 per cent. It is not clear how the researchers get this figure, but I do believe good friendships will benefit your health. At least the number of suicides will be reduced if they realise that in the world they are still cared about by someone and have someone to care for.
We all wish that we could be happy every day, but nobody can completely avoid down turns in their whole lives. In your everyday life, you have to deal with different kinds of trivial difficulties. At work, you have to confront the stress from your job. Sometimes, you even have to bear unexpected sorrow, such a natural disaster. When your heart burdens too much, talking to friends may help you to get it off your chest. After all, nobody really has an iron heart.
However, the word “friend” has been widely used. Friendships can be long term or short term. You make friends when you study in schools, work and even travel on planes. You cannot expect all of them to be your close friends. You can only rely on those who are close friends because you cannot wear your heart on your sleeve. Among them only genuine friends can really help in your difficult time. As is known to all, “A friend in need is a friend indeed".
There are also some people who look like they are friends but actually they are enemies in their minds. That kind of friendships can only damage your health because they often are more dangerous than your obvious enemy. Some people who make friends with you just want to manipulate you because they believe that there are no permanent enemies, no permanent friends, only permanent interests. Those friendships definitely will hurt you in the end.
So when we make friends, I think the quality of the friendships is more important than the quantity. We may also need some wisdom to identify those genuine friendships.